Peoples wrong advise....

DO NOT THINK......

You should never think you should just have to get over or just handle bullying. A lot of peoples advise for bullying is to get over it or just handle it but you should never have too. Do something about it SEEK HELP, don't just sit back and take it. People have always said to me to just get over it but they didn't realise every night when I went to go to sleep that was all that played over in my head, the names, the teasing over and over. Please don't ever tell someone to get over bullying cause it can destroy them inside and can do a lot of damage to them mentally and spiritually. Seek help and get the support you need.   

Struggling At Home

Home Life.

Not everybody's home life is the best. Sometimes its to embarrassing to ask for help( but nobody should feel embarrassed to ask for help). 

Money..

Sometimes families struggle with getting a descent amount of income. Me personal I know how that feels and I for sure am not embarrassed to say my family are not the wealthiest nor the poorest but we do struggle at times but that is how life goes. As people always say "Money doesn't grow on trees". Its true you wont always have money when you need it but that is how you learn to live with what you have.

Food..

A lot of families struggle with food. Even a simple meal is hard to dish up. I also know what that is like, when both my parents didn't have a descent income we found it hard to prepare food for school lunches, dinner etc... But thankfully because of these times where there wasn't much, It has taught me to cook with what I have in hand and to appreciate the little things. At one point we only had basics like bread, butter, milk, flour etc.....and so I made some mash potato cups, Which was just a pieces of bread in the muffin tin mould fill with mash potato. It was yummy and because of what little we had at the time we learnt to be thankful for what ever we had. Also we had some very loving family who would buy us some milk or bread when we couldn't afford it and we do the same for them.

Be thankful and give back..

You should always be thankful to people who help. If you are in need and someone helps you tell them how much you appreciate it. A little thanks can go a long way. Also if someone helps you get back on your feet also give a little heart and give back, when you are back on your feet and they are struggling help them out, a loaf of bread or a milk can mean a lot to someone and their family.

The Criticism And Talking

Learning to deal with the fact of people talking behind your back.

Its true there is always somebody out there that has something to say about you, whether it be to your face or behind your back. Sometimes nice and sometimes bad but no matter what you have to learn to cope with it. It may not always be true what they say but they don't care whether it is or not they just gonna say what they heard.

My experience..

When I decided that I didn't want to go to school everybody had there opinion, family and friends. Some of them said " You are making a big mistake" others said " If it makes you happy, then do it". Sometimes it was to my face, other times behind my back. Once I had left peoples opinions obviously got stronger. The people I thought were my friends started making rumours of why I left and most of them turned against me or stopped talking to me or didn't want anything to do with me, but that was their choice I couldn't do anything about that. Some of my family would talk about me when I wasn't around or complain to my parents but it really had nothing to do with them it was between me and my parents. None of them ever cared when I was at school and being bullied but when I did something about it that didn't suit them they cared. I have days when I wish I had someone to talk to (true friends) or someone to hang with but that was one of the consequences of me leaving and so I'm dealing with it. There are times when I hear rumours about me but I know they are not true and if people really knew me they would to but they just go by what others say.

My point is ......

If you hear people talking about you or you hear a rumour that has been spreading around simple just say its not true as long as you know it isn't and your true friends and family know it isn't then that rumour is just a waste of time. You shouldn't worry about what others think about you, the only thing that matters is what you think. Don't take rumours to heart, just think about it those people are like paparazzi and your like the superstar they find you interesting to talk about because you are important enough.

Fireworks at New Years parade. A new year a new beginning.

We Can't Ignore It Anymore

Suicide, the pain and the heart ache 

Suicide is a very sensitive topic that nobody wants to talk about, But I believe  its now time to speak out.

Increasing suicide death rates.

Over the last 45 years suicidal deaths have increased by 60% worldwide. Suicide is now one of the three main causes of death among people aged 15-44(male and female). It has been estimate that at least one person commits suicide every 40 seconds and the increasing rate predicts by 2020 it will have increased to 20 seconds.

Who it effects?

Most people who are thinking about committing suicide believe that nobody cares, so no one will care if they die, but that is wrong. You may think nobody cares but you will find a lot of people do. If you are being bullied you will think the bully doesn't care but they do. Why? , they obviously have some sort of care for you. Why else would they take time out of their day to bully you, when they could be doing what ever they want. That person in your class that always asks for a pen obviously cares, there are others in your class that he or she could ask but they ask you. Your friends and family care for you and love you, if you don't reach out to them and then you take your own life they could blame themselves, think that its all their fault for not seeing what your going through, but they cant read minds if you are struggling you have to talk to them not expect them to always figure out when you are having a bad time.

So.......

My main point I'm trying to get across is that the person that takes their own life is not the only person effected it effects everybody around you. It will effect them mentally, socially, some even physically or even damage their health.

All I ask for is for anybody who is thinking about taking their life, just think about others as well. How will your best friend cope with not having their BFF to share weekends and secrets with, your parents not being able to see their child grow up, your little siblings wont have someone to stick up for them when they get bullied or guide them through life. You are not the only one and never will be people do care and always will.

Reach Out

Give A Helping Hand

A few words, an open heart and listening ears can mean a lot more to someone than you can ever think.

When you feel like nobody cares and  you are alone there is always someone out there that loves you. There is someone out there that can't bare with the idea of you struggling.  Reach out to that person they can help you, You are not alone in any situation. Don't ever feel afraid to ask for help. Don't ever feel like you cant talk to someone without being judged. You are a strong person but even the strongest people at times need help.

I am here for you, also you are there for yourself.If you ever need help contact someone don't hide away.

Expressing How We Feel

Opening up and expressing your feelings.

Its not easy to open up and let out your feelings and emotions to other people. So here is 3 ways to open up and express how you feel to yourself.

• Your inner artist.

Draw what your heart feels doesn't have to be the next million dollar art piece just whatever comes to mind whether it be stick figures or little hearts,flowers,butterflies,stars etc.....  

Drawing I did when I felt alone and isolated.

• Musical heart within 

Sing, dance, write music or even play an instrument. And yet again I'm not saying you have to become the next Miley Cyrus or Eminem, just express how you feel whether it be in the shower or in the milking shed. Grab a cheap acoustic guitar go sit on the beach, under a tree or in your bedroom and learn songs that relate to how you are feeling. Play some music that also describes how you feel in your home and dance around like crazy for half an hour or just grab a piece of paper and a pen and write some of your feelings and things that are happening around you and put it in a song.

• Get crazy in the kitchen

Yet again I'm not saying become the next head chef or anything just maybe cook a family breakfast, Lunch, Dinner or just a random meal get out your favourite recipe or make up your own ( don't go too crazy make sure its edible). I find this is good if you maybe don't have much food or need quiet alone time ( just making easy pasta if the cupboard is empty can make a good meal).

My apple crumble dessert I created.

Also be aware.......

I'm not saying you should shut off from everybody but sometimes having alone thinking time is a good way to deal with things personally . 

My love goes to all.  

A New Beginning

Lets Do This Together!

Its time for me and you to open up about the things happening in our life.Life has its ups and downs which I will be sharing. I have struggled with my social and personal life and so have others, so now its time we all work together to help each other through those hard times and to celebrate the good times we will see more of. My love goes to all struggling.